Lift the weight & put down the feelings.
There’s no room for both.
Girl maintenance is just as
expensive as the damn trip.
Overwhelmed ain’t the
word. Was this the part of
“adulting” my parents
warned me about?
Guess Who Broke the #1 Gym Rule...
I spoke to my gym crush.
Everybody knows you’re supposed to let the gym crush be the gym crush. Be the eye candy.
Be a little motivation. Be a set of eyes when you do those RDLs. Maybe even flirt a lil bit. But
never ever break the wall by speaking to him.
But I did.
I had been seeing him for months. He kept looking, smiling and eyeing me down, but never
said anything. (Kind of hate that in a man, but I’m not afraid to make the first move.) & he’s
cute! Literally my type. So, I put on the pants & decide to say something. This man gon’ say, “I
appreciate it, & I do be seeing you, but I’m spoken for.” I could’ve picked up that weight and
wacked him right there. WHY DO ALL THIS FLIRTY SHIT TO NOT EVEN BE AVAILABLE?
For the record, I’m not mad he turned me down. I don’t care about that. This was some lil
fun shit. & men always gon’ be around. I’m pissed that I stuck my neck out for a man who
got somebody at home and his chocolate ass luring me in like this. But now we don’t even
speak. I don’t even look, though I did catch him looking at me once (lol).
Next time, I ain’t saying nothing. Let fun shit be fun shit. Probably gon’ see his ass tomorrow.
But I too am spoken for, by these gains.
Don’t Nobody Bring Me No Bad News
Is there a such thing as knowing too much? Or staying too updated?
These past couple weeks, so much shit has been happening all over the world that I never
knew I’d have to process as an adult. This is not the “freedom” I signed up for. When I was 16,
and said “I can’t wait ‘til I’m grown & get out the house”…I just meant to stay out with my
friends ‘til 3am….NOT this shit.
Between the wildfires, the tragedy in New Orleans, TikTok shutting down, Tr*mp becoming
president ON MLK DAY (this feels anti-Black), a ceasefire in Gaza after 476 days of torture
(finally), federal aid’s potential of being cut, & recent plane crashes. I’ve truly had enough.
In my opinion, one of the biggest problems is greed. Greed has changed how we live, how we
think, & how we choose to move forward in society. Something must always be topped or
outdone. Social media has lost the joy and laughs of just being (minus TikTok,). It seems like
there’s always something to prove or something to show for the sake of trying to be seen.
The easiest time to be alive was 2000-2011; oversized white tees, Nokia phones with a
ringtone, and Jaheim singing his heart out. Our parents dealt with injustice for a better
future; doubt they thought it would lead to this. I’m grateful it’s better than the 60s, but we’re
one executive order away from living like the ‘Handmaid’s Tale’.
I’m always holding my breath, waiting for the other shoe to drop.
& still gotta pay rent on the 1st.
I’m Just A Girl
For the first time ever in life, I wasn’t home for Christmas. No mac & cheese, no turkey, no
pot roast, no mashed potatoes, none of that. I ate jerk chicken, cabbage, and some plantains.
Cause I was on a beach in JAMAICIA. Now while this was really really nice cause I didn’t have
to deal with the Chicago winter for a week, the maintenance of this trip was crazy expensive
and it started to piss me off.
We were 9 days away from the trip and when I tell you I had NOTHING ordered or booked. My
family had been planning this trip since March, and guess who decided to wait til the last
minute to get everything….. And my aunt booked us an all-white family picture. I ain’t have
no inspiration, no ideas, and a strict budget cause I was also Christmas shopping.
THIS is when being a girl is so goddamn hard. Nails, hair, new fits, accessories, lashes, brows.
And I had to even throw some new luggage and TSA pre-check on that list too (which I’m
finding useless, but we’ll talk about that later). Men don’t have it this hard. All they need is a
haircut, shorts, and cologne maybe. & honestly that’s giving them too much credit.
Maintenance as a woman is at least $1k after you add everything up and I don’t get the
finest of the finest shit. I thought maintenance was supposed to be relaxing. Ain’t shit about
this relaxing. & this economy is shit and I wanna be pretty in it. So imma need one of my
friends to start tapping into the beauty industry forreal so I can get SOMETHING for free.
Time is ticking and I’m fine with being the test-dummy once you get that license girly.
But the next time a man says something about my appearance, imma send him the bill.
Cause I’m just a girl, or whatever Gwen Stefani said.
Now, I did listen to
$$4U by Drake &
PND. Not gonna lie, it
got some hits on
there.
See
Smell
Hear
Taste
Touch
I’ve heard Real
Housewives of
Beverly Hills was
messy, but my God.
I’m tuned in.
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Went to Divan’s for
Galentine’s day.
Very sexy, very
intimate, Perfect
date scene.
Connected w/ some
cool people at a
Happy Hour w/
AnyGivenWknd.
Excited to see what’s
next!!
“sensational”
(my sensory adventures of the week)
Tuned Out
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who is she?
DaughterAlexus is a Southside Chicagoan with a sassiness
for life, and she’s here to add a little spice to yours. Her
journey is all about striving for a fun, active, and healthy
lifestyle—no matter how much BS life throws her way.
Navigating her 20s has been a wild ride, filled with peaks,
pits, and everything in between. She’s faced the heartbreak
of losing friendships, grappled with the endless pursuit of
losing 20 pounds in 20 minutes, and so much more while
embracing the challenge of finding joy, balance, and fun in
the midst of it all.
Now, as she’s inched into her 30s, she’s realized that sharing
her stories, struggles, and successes can be just as
empowering as living them. Whether you’re here for some
motivation, a few laughs, or simply to see what’s next on this
rollercoaster of life, let’s hope you find something relatable,
uplifting, and maybe even a little bit spicy.
DaughterAlexus